Witterings
Thursday, March 03, 2022
My new blog series didn’t get off to the best start. The details are boring so I'll just say I have no charity shop purchases to share (yet) but I do have witterings, and Photo An Hour blog posts piling up so I'll just get on with it
The witterings…
I joined a dating app for women. Haha! Let me rephrase that. I joined an app that’s like a dating app, for women to meet other women who are at a similar stage in life (fertility / motherhood / menopause - delete as applicable). And I joined in the hope of meeting some local Mums with babies a similar age to Bub.
It has a swipe function just like Tinder. Swipe up if she sounds friendly, swipe down if she doesn’t. It’s hideous when you think about it really. But, my friends kids are all older, all at school, heck some of them are soon to leave school, so no chance of any play dates for Bub there!
Wanting her to mix with other babies is one of the reasons I joined the baby sensory group, which is great fun, but so far no friendships have bloomed. It’s flippin’ hard to make friends as an adult so I thought I’d give the app a go. What have I got to lose, right?
I ‘connected’ with a woman from a nearby village and we’re meeting up soon. First up for a walk at a local beauty spot and then maybe taking the littles swimming. I still haven’t figured out all the logistics for swimming with Bub… I mean, how do you manage a slippery baby in a public space and get yourself dry and back into clothes at the same time??
Anyway, I’m looking forward to meeting this potential new Mum friend. Her little girl is about the same age as Bub and I think it’ll be really beneficial for her to spend time with another child. At some point I’d like her to go to a playgroup a few times a week but that seems like a long way off so this is a good start for the time being.
On another subject entirely, why can’t I buy anything other than high waisted jeans?! Even the ‘mid rise’ I ordered recently covered my belly button. It’s not a style I’ve ever liked and I’m not about to change my mind. I’m not after a pair of hipsters here, I’m not Christina Aguilera circa 2002, I just want a waistband that doesn’t nearly meet my boobs.
I’m in dire need of some new jeans, my favourite pair have lost their elasticity, and others no longer fit well. Finding a decent, well fitting, flattering pair of jeans is tiresome enough without this stupid high waisted trend making it harder. I’ll keep looking… and I’ll keep you updated on my Mum date.
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11 comments
I was a late mum having my first at 36 and second at 41 I joined every church morning mums and babes playgroup within walking distance, there was one for every day of the week at various church denominations, all welcomed us free, babies and all ages up to pre school, made lots of friends for my boys this way and also found child minders used them too so lots of experienced ladies with golden nuggets of wisdom as I had no family for advice. Hope your mum date works out as I know how important it is to see little ones socialising.
ReplyDeleteI need to join more groups but I'm better one to one, so I'm hoping to meet a few more Mum's via the app. But I'll remember the church groups - Good idea, thanks!
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I'm keeping my fingers crossed for your Mum date! Indeed, it isn't easy making new friends as an adult, and I'm hearing you on your friends' children being older than Bub. My step-daughter-in-law has exactly the same problem. I'm sure you two would be a perfect match, with my step-grandson being exactly the same age as Bub, too!
ReplyDeleteGood luck on finding the perfect pair of jeans! xxx
What a shame she doesn't live closer :)
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Haha,my solution is NOT wearing jeans! I do have a few pairs and they are high-waisted but not this modern type! I do hope the date works out with the other Mum. It's SO hard to make friends as an adult, I agree!
ReplyDeleteSwimming does sound difficult though! Eek!x
I don't think I'd be me without jeans!
DeleteMum date is set for Wednesday.
Plenty of people take their little ones swimming so it MUST be possible. Swimming tales to come soon!
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That group sounds like an excellent idea.
ReplyDeleteI uesd to think only weirdos met online but a lot of my real-life friends are women I've met through my blog with common interests in stuff like vintage clothes, travel and festivals.
I hope that date goes well! xx
Hehe my husband and I met online 😆. I think it’s quite common to me partners / friends this way now, even if it does feel a bit weird initially.
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I hope your mum date goes well! I'm thinking of signing up for postnatal "recovery" classes for the same reason (it's basically a mixture of pelvic floor exercises and some kind of aerobics). The local parent/child play session starts at 1 year old so that's no good to us! It would be nice to have friends with children around the same age though.
ReplyDeleteWe've already been looking at nurseries - you have to get in early - but she won't be going until December. I'm off work until the end of October then Jan is saving his final month of paternity leave for November.
As I work from home I don’t have a return to work date. I’ve already taken on some work but intend to focus on Bub, which I’m very lucky to be able to do. I’m thinking a playgroup at around the age of 3 would be good.
DeleteI think Mum friends are essential!!
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Theoretically my work would keep my job open for 3 years but it would be unpaid! I work from home but I'm not sure I could at get any work done while looking after her so sending her at age 1 seems like a reasonable compromise. I want to work part time so she will still have afternoons with me and the two nurseries we've narrowed it down to are both bilingual German/English which is perfect for us.
DeleteThank you for taking the time to comment x