One year ago today

Saturday, October 03, 2015


A year ago today I published this post about the fact Andy hadn't proposed to me on my 39th birthday.

It was by far the most personal post I've ever published. I received many kind and thoughtful comments, and all had a general message of 'talk to him'. Which I did. Sort of.

One evening Andy made yet another quip about marriage being rubbish and I looked at him in a deflated sort of way that demonstrated I didn't find it funny. I told him that I really wanted us to be married, that it was important to me.

He looked at me and nodded his head, and it was all I needed to know he'd heard me.

Little did I know that he'd already set things in motion. He'd been going to my Dad's house, on the off-chance of finding him at home, for a few months. Andy is a traditional sort of fellow and he wanted to ask my Dad's permission before he proposed.

The sod of it is that my Dad is rarely at home, and Andy doesn't often get the opportunity to go visiting. It wasn't until a few days before Christmas that he was there when Andy knocked on his door.

They sat down, had a cup of tea and chatted about this and that (farming mostly), they had another cup of tea, and it wasn't until Andy was standing at the front door again, ready to leave, that he finally asked the question.

I'm told that my Dad just smiled and said 'Yes, I think that would be a very good idea'.

On Christmas Day Andy surprised me and got down on one knee, asking me to spend the rest of my life with him.

Today we've been married for six months, life feels exactly the same as it did before marriage, and yet it also feels so completely different.

I can now finally put my finger on why I felt the need to get married. I feel like I belong more than I ever have before. We're together, and that's all there is to it.

(Day 35 of blogging everyday for 40 days)

Photo by Katie Drouet Photography

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11 comments

  1. I think it's personal choice these days whether to marry or not, there isn't the need there used to be when it was frowned upon to live together or to have children out of wedlock. We celebrated our silver wedding anniversary this year and I still love being married.

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    1. I agree. I'd never really been bothered about marriage, thinking that it would be something that I would do 'one day' I guess meeting Andy was what changed, he was the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. I loved our wedding, but it's the marriage that makes me smile daily, I love being married and I take my vows very seriously.
      Congratulations on your silver wedding anniversary!

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  2. Time absolutely flies! I remember chatting about that post on a sofa that had no suspension on a day out. Ah, I'm so happy for you Mrs :D xx

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    1. I'd forgotten about that sofa! What a great day of shopping that was :)
      Time does fly, how can it be a year already? I love being a Mrs :)

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  3. I remember that post well! So lovely that it worked out so beautifully!x

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    1. I had no idea that a year later things would be so different :)

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  4. I remember so clearly the post you wrote a year ago, and feeling sad for you that it hadn't happened like you wanted. And now...! How time flies, and how perfectly things have worked out.

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    1. As it turns out, they way it happened was pretty darn perfect. I knew they would work themselves out, I was just having a wobble. I needed some reassurance I think. The need to vent overwhelms sometimes and I knew turning to my blogs friends would help tremendously. By writing things down I can examine my feelings and gain clarity. Sometimes if I talk to people I ramble and can't make myself understood, writing is a conversation with myself, eventually I make sense, if only to myself!

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  5. I remember that post well and the comment I left on it. I remember feeling pretty much EXACTLY the same way and look where we are now. Silly billys xx

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    1. I know! If we'd both just been a tiny bit more patient!

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  6. I love this post - I am in exactly the same boat you were and panicking about my fertility dwindling. Decided that although I would prefer to be married, it isn't worth risking so having to shuffle the plan slightly, grr. I have gone past the subtle hint phase, in fact I even sent my boyfriend a photo of the engagement ring (a very reasonably priced one!) I wanted superimposed onto a photo of my own hand, with a link to the website! To him it is just 'a piece of paper' and he is desperate for a baby. We will see what happens....

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